Probably one to work through with a therapist helping you make it specific to your needs.

Setting boundaries can result in a lot of pain and heartache and this is glossed over which feels a bit irresponsible. I also wonder about the amount of responsibility given to the boundary setter - the book basically says if you set a boundary and others don’t follow it, it’s because you haven’t set the boundary correctly, which simply isn’t true in all situations. Overall I think the book is a bit too over simplified and repetitive. Set Boundaries, Find Peace gives a good overview of boundary setting with specific examples and social scripts which I know many people will find helpful, and I liked the connection between (lack of) boundaries and burn out.

Nedra is one of the better ones so I thought I’d check out her book. I follow a bunch of therapists on Instagram because I find their aesthetically pleasing, easily digestible posts really accessible and they come in handy in my work (usually with parents more than young people). If you feel like a victim, have low self-worth, guilt or feel unappreciated in any relationship area (intimate, friend, family, work, etc.), I cannot recommend this book enough to begin creating a healthier, happier life! Throughout the book Nedra provides detailed examples (anonymized) from her practice to highlight how poor boundaries present themselves in our daily lives, specific actions to begin practicing healthy boundaries and real outcomes from individuals who created healthier boundaries. Nedra Glover Tawwab has achieved this balance so elegantly by addressing the origins of poor boundaries, where poor boundaries can exist in our lives (self, family, friends, work, social media, etc.) and coaches the reader as to how to begin creating the type of healthy boundaries required to live a happy life without resentment.

The cost for us not having healthy boundaries is great! This book will help.Īs an individual that has done a great deal of ‘The Work’ to improve my wellbeing, it is rare to find literature in the area of psychology/self-help that strikes such a perfect balance between both addressing complex principles in Psychology and making the content simple to understand and incorporate for the reader. ‘Set Boundaries, Find Peace’ should be a required reading before we reach adulthood! Whether it’s through family or social conditioning, the vast majority of us have incorporated poor boundaries into some or all areas of our lives.

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